Thursday, August 25, 2022

MARRIAGE VOWS.

  A Vow is a solemn promised made, pledged or personal commitment. A marriage vow is a promised made or personal commitment willfully made by two people who have agreed to join together in holy matrimony during weding ceremony. Vows can be broken as a result of several reasons and factors.


Reasons for broken vows.

1. Domestic abuse and violence. This is one of the common cause of broken vows among partners that are into relationship.

2. Infidelity, and breach of trust. Unfaithfulness can make a couple break his or her marital vows.

3. Barrenness.

4. Undue pressure from family members, friends, and relatives.

No matter the qualities, attributes, and perfect a spouse is, if one of them is not working for the sustainability of the marriage, then divorce, and breakup is inevitable.


Post Marriage Preparation.

Wedlock is only ceremony but marriage is a lifelong commitment between two individuals. When the honeymoon is over, couples are faced with the realities of life like dealing with in-laws, friends etc.

Marriages can be challenging in several ways, and as couples it is important for them to have post marriage preparation and some of these preparations are as follows,

1. Unconditional love and care for your spouse. Couples should have unconditional love, and care for their spouse irrespective of the challenges that may unfold after marriage.

2. Always say please and thank you. Saying thank you and please has a way of adding value to your marriage.

3. Public commendation, and private correction. Sometimes we make mistakes in life. As as a couple commending your spouse in public will boost her love and commitment to you. Alternatively, correcting your spouse privately shows that you have respect, and value for your partner and makes them look special, appreciated, and valued.

4. Be selfless. Selflessness in marriage bond couples together. 

5. Build trust and have confidence for each other.

6. Manage your finance, and money together.

Develop good relationship with your in-laws.

Marriage vow should be made with caution in other not to have a broken marriage.

 

MARRIAGE.

Marriage also known as matrimony is a culturally recognized union between two adult called spouses, that establishes right, and obligation between them, their children, and in-laws. It is a global, and cultural accepted concept. Typically, it is an institution in which interpersonal relationship usually sex is entertained, encouraged, and involved.

In some cultures, marriage is recommended before any sexual activity is allowed. A marriage ceremony is called wedding. 

Brief History of Marriage.

Marriage, the union between a man and a woman recognized by authority, and ceremony is as old as civilization itself. It is found in any civilize society, culture, and community. But, throughout the centuries, marriage has taken different forms. Understanding of marriage contrasted greatly from culture to culture.

Some cultures viewed the institution as endogamous[men required to marry from or within their own social group, family. clan, or tribe], exogamous [marrying outside the geographical region or social group] or polygamous[allowing men to take more than one wife or bride.


Polygamy was formally banned towards the end of the roman empire with laws against fornication, adultery, and other relationship outside a monogamous relationship. This practice was gradually erased and led to modern day practice  of diverse kind of marriages, and relationship.

Pre-Marriage Tips.

Marriage is a lifelong relationship, and as adult who intend to get married, it is important and necessary for anyone that want to enter this institution to be counsel on some of the tips in other to experience a peaceful, and enjoyable marriage. Some of these tips are,

1. Work and improve on your negative habit. Improving on your negative lifestyle like drug addiction before getting married will be of help to you in other to avoid crisis in  your marriage. If your partner is a drug addict look for ways of helping him come out from drug addiction before getting married to him.

2. Be a good friend to your potential spouse. Don't marry a stranger in other to impress your parents, relatives etc. Don't marry a complete stranger and hope of becoming compatible over time. Marry someone with similar values, believes, and orientation for a sustainable marriage.


3. Communicate effectively and consistently before marriage. Don't be secretive. Tell your partner all your hidden secrets, and discuss about religion, careers, children, in-laws etc .A partner that has child with previous relationship should discuss it with his partner before marriage.

4. Don't be defensive. Argument and disagreement is normal, and healthy if done or handle fairly. Nothing can get an argument heated like a partner who feels unseen, and unheard. 

5. Be honest in your judgement. If you observe certain habits, and character that is against your believe and orientation from your partner, just quit because a broken relationship is better than divorce.

Never get married to someone with the intention of changing your partner. Never marry an abusive partner and hope of changing him after marriage. An abuser is a potential murderer waiting to manifest. A lot of women today are victims of domestic violence today because of they refused to quit their relationship with their partners during courtship.

Allowing your emotions to becloud your judgement can be fatal, deadly, and dangerous.




Wednesday, August 24, 2022

INFERTILITY AND CHILDLESSNESS.

 WHO defines infidelity as a "disease of the reproductive system defined by failure to achieve a clinical pregnancy after 12 months or more of unprotected sexual intercourse. Infertility, and childlessness causes problems in marriages, homes etc. Medical experts noted that infertility and childlessness for women could be caused by several factors like surgery, ovulation disorder, cervical abnormalies etc.

For men, it could be caused by abnormal sperm function or an infection such as mumps etc. Gynaecologist advised couples who are childless not to lose hope and confidence of having children irrespective of there problems.

DISADVANTAGES OF CHILDLESS FAMILY.

Childless couples has numerous challenges. Some of these challenges are

1. Lack of support and care when older. Childless couples who are older lack support and care due to their childlessness.

2. Depression

3. Anxiety

4. Lack of companionship.

5. Undue pressure from in-laws, family members etc.

6. Emotional, and psychologigal  problem.

7. Frustration and sorrow.


Couples who are infertile and childless faces sorrow and frustration because of their problem.     Marriage breakup sometimes is attributed to infertility, and childlessness.  The inability of couples to have children can be frustrating for women especially in Africa. 

In some countries, women who are childless are denied some right, and benefit as a result of their condition. They are sometimes  considered as curse, afflicted etc. Some of the resultant effect of childlessness is polygamy. In the western world, polygamy has been erased from their culture due to their believe, understanding and approach toward infidelity, and childlessness.


VOLUNTARY CHILDLESSNESS.

Voluntary childlessness or childless free family is when couple decided before or after marriage not to have kids or children. Childlessness is on the rise in developed countries compared to under developed nations. Non-mothers who have decided not to have children are sometimes stigmatized. In some cultures, they are not accepted easily due to believes, customs etc

Motherhood is accepted globally, but when it comes to voluntary childlessness, they are sometimes not given the required support, right, and benefit. Most women who are childless seek liberation from some of the wrong perception about child free marriage.

Though some childless couples have devise means of making themselves happy irrespective of their childlessness. Some of them are fulfilled, and more happier than those that have children in their marriages. Childless couples don't experience motherhood but a sometimes work collectively with their spouse for comfort, satisfaction and fulfillment in their marriages.

They develop relationship with friends, relatives, colleagues etc. They don't see children as their source of happiness especially for those couples who choose childless free family voluntarily. Childless couples spend quality time together devoid of parenting challenges, issues, and difficulties

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