DEALING WITH ANGER IN MARRIAGE.

 Anger if properly managed is helpful because it has a way of bringing couples together in marriage and relationship. Poor management of anger can be destructive. Anger is only helpful if it's handled in a healthy and constructive manner.

Dealing with anger in marriage is important because no matter how couples are compatible, conflict may arise which may lead to expression of anger. It's not possible to have a conflict free marriage because husband and wife who may have come from different background are expected to have different opinion, interest etc.

Anger is used sometimes to express feelings, frustration, and grievances. There is no controversy that the success and failure of any marriage may likely depend on the way and manner couples handle their anger when they are angry.  The way and manner couples react when they are angry differs.

HOW TO MANAGE ANGER SUCCESSFULLY IN MARRIAGE.

Anger can't be eradicated in marriage but can be manage and control. Conflict can create room for better understanding, stronger ties when handled and managed effectively. Marriage partners should address their grievances in a manner that will not be detrimental to their peaceful co-existence. The following steps are recommended to manage anger successfully in marriage.

1. Always express your anger with Love. If anger and conflict in marriage is express in love, it helps in proper reconciliation of the issues at stake.

2. Never use abusive words when you are angry. Using abusive words when you are angry can worsen the already tensed situation. Spoken words has a way of healing pains, or igniting tension in marriage especially when spoken in anger.

3. Don't assault your spouse when you are angry. Physical assault of spouse during conflict is unhealthy especially when you are angry. There are many ways of expressing anger without physical assault of your partner. It will complicate issues, and also  lead to injuries, bruises etc.

Don't hesitate to say am sorry. During conflict, and misunderstanding, the ability of a partner to accept responsibility by saying am sorry has a way of resolving issues. Sometimes, pride will make a spouse not to accept  responsibility for the cause of the conflict. Saying sorry at the appropriate time is a matured way of managing anger effectively.

DISADVANTAGES OF POOR ANGER MANAGEMENT.

1.Death. Poor management of anger has led to the death of several couples. Anger can make someone commit murder. Some couples have taken the life of their partner as a result of anger.

2.Loss of Property. Poor management of anger by some couples has led to physical destruction of properties

3. Injuries related to physical combat. Sometimes, couples may engage in physical combat when they are angry which may lead to injuries.

4. Divorce. Improper management of anger can lead to litigation, and the end resultant effect divorce.

Being angry is normal, understandable, necessary especially when you feel humiliated, abused, and disgraced. But the way, and manner you handle it may result to negative or positive result, death, injuries, emotional problems, divorce etc. Sometimes, some death and injuries can be avoided if couples express their anger in an acceptable manner.

Anger can't be prevented even in marriages, but managing it is the key for effective and successful marriage.

 

SINGLE PARENTHOOD.

Single Parent is a person who has a child or children but does not have a spouse or live in partner to assist in the welfare and bringing up of the child.  Single Parenthood is the act of raising a child or children in the house.

Single parenthood is common everywhere, and sometimes, it's cause by death, divorce, medical condition etc. It has it's own challenges, difficulties, problems, and effect.

EFFECTS OF SINGLE PARENTHOOD ON CHILDREN.

Some of the effects of single parenthood on children are as follows,

Drug Abuse. Due to the difficulties attached to single parenthood, majority of their children are expose to drug abuse.

Alcohol Abuse. Some of the cases of drug abuse by youth is traceable to single parenthood,

Early pregnancy. Youth especially females are prone to early pregnancy.

Poor Child Development. Poor child development is one of the effect of single parenthood.

Financial Problems. Financial problem is one of the major problem of single parenthood. When the woman becomes the only one responsible for the financial, and upkeep of the child, or children they may likely face financial challenge.

Developmental Problems. Children who are from single parenst most times suffer from developmental problems in school. Due to the undue pressure from their parent, they hardly get the needed attention for their moral, and academic development.

 

 POSITIVE EFFECT ON SINGLE PARENTING.

Despite the negative effects of single parenting as it relates to children, their are also some positive effects on single parenting. Some of the positive effects are as follows,

Stronger Bond from Parent to Child/Children. As a single parent, it is possible for the child to enjoy strong bond between him and his parent. Some single parents spend quality time with their children thereby enhancing good parenting.

Less conflict. A single parent will experience less conflict in the home compared to husband and wife relationship.

Unconditional Love. Children from single parents enjoy unconditional love from their parent.

Undivided Attention. The attention of single parents is not divided.

Single parenthood has it ups and down; and it's important for one to adequately set out quality time irrespective of the pressure to train up your children in other for them not to be irresponsible citizens in the society.

Single parenting is challenging, but with proper planning, and commitment children groom from single parents can become responsible people. 

RELATIONSHIP ABUSE.

Relationship abuse is any relationship that is devoid of any acceptable or moral standard of behavior. It can also be defined as any partner who has excessive control and dominance over a person in a relationship. It is an evil, unacceptable, and unhealthy relationship.

Common forms of relationship abuse are sexual assault, threat to life, physical attack etc. Victims of relationship abuse always live in fear, intimidated, terrorized, and sometimes even get hurt from their abusive partner. It cut across region, race, background, tribe etc.

Sometimes, it's difficult to know if someone is an abuser early in a relationship. Abuse in relationship doesn't happen. It takes sometime few weeks or months after the contracting of the relationship. The abusive partner will start exhibiting his abusive behaviors as the relationship progresses.

EFFECTS OF RELATIONSHIP ABUSE.

Depression.

Chronic pains,

Anxiety,

Emotionally problems etc.

Types of Abuse.

Let us look closely some of the types of abuse. They are as follows,

Verbal Abuse. This is any non physical behavior such as insults, threats, humiliation, intimidation etc.

Physical Abuse. Any unwanted contact with someone with the intention of causing pain, harm or injury.

Sexual Abuse. Sexual behavior is behavior that coerces someone to do something sexually against their consent, wish, and desire.

Financial Abuse. Any financial dealings that is unethical, fraud etc with the intention to cheat etc.

Stalking. When someone watches, harasses, and follows someone in other to make him or her feel insecure, afraid repeatedly.

Digital Abuse. This is the use of social media platform to intimidate a partner.

HOW TO AVOID BEING ABUSED.

Being abuse is a terrible experience. It has negative effect on those who experienced it. Anyone who has been abused can take proactive steps to avoid being abuse again. Some of these steps are as follows,

Avoid anyone who has previously abused you before. Staying away from your ex partner is another wise way of being a victim of abuse.

Be sensitive to people with violent behaviors. People with violent behaviors should be avoided.

Avoid people with intimidating behaviors. Anyone no matter how good he may be as long as he is an abuser, is not worth having an affair with.

Always right. Their are people who find it difficult to accept their mistakes, fault, etc. They will never say sorry due to pride, disrespect etc.

No one want an abusive relationship. Everyone need relationship devoid of abuse, intimidation, assault, and pains. Relationship need to be cordial, respectful, and dignified. Everybody deserves to be treated with love, dignity, and respect.

The government, community, non governmental agencies, religious organization need to speak against it because it's inhuman, immoral, uncivilized, and primitive.