DEALING WITH ANGER IN MARRIAGE.

 Anger if properly managed is helpful because it has a way of bringing couples together in marriage and relationship. Poor management of anger can be destructive. Anger is only helpful if it's handled in a healthy and constructive manner.

Dealing with anger in marriage is important because no matter how couples are compatible, conflict may arise which may lead to expression of anger. It's not possible to have a conflict free marriage because husband and wife who may have come from different background are expected to have different opinion, interest etc.

Anger is used sometimes to express feelings, frustration, and grievances. There is no controversy that the success and failure of any marriage may likely depend on the way and manner couples handle their anger when they are angry.  The way and manner couples react when they are angry differs.

HOW TO MANAGE ANGER SUCCESSFULLY IN MARRIAGE.

Anger can't be eradicated in marriage but can be manage and control. Conflict can create room for better understanding, stronger ties when handled and managed effectively. Marriage partners should address their grievances in a manner that will not be detrimental to their peaceful co-existence. The following steps are recommended to manage anger successfully in marriage.

1. Always express your anger with Love. If anger and conflict in marriage is express in love, it helps in proper reconciliation of the issues at stake.

2. Never use abusive words when you are angry. Using abusive words when you are angry can worsen the already tensed situation. Spoken words has a way of healing pains, or igniting tension in marriage especially when spoken in anger.

3. Don't assault your spouse when you are angry. Physical assault of spouse during conflict is unhealthy especially when you are angry. There are many ways of expressing anger without physical assault of your partner. It will complicate issues, and also  lead to injuries, bruises etc.

Don't hesitate to say am sorry. During conflict, and misunderstanding, the ability of a partner to accept responsibility by saying am sorry has a way of resolving issues. Sometimes, pride will make a spouse not to accept  responsibility for the cause of the conflict. Saying sorry at the appropriate time is a matured way of managing anger effectively.

DISADVANTAGES OF POOR ANGER MANAGEMENT.

1.Death. Poor management of anger has led to the death of several couples. Anger can make someone commit murder. Some couples have taken the life of their partner as a result of anger.

2.Loss of Property. Poor management of anger by some couples has led to physical destruction of properties

3. Injuries related to physical combat. Sometimes, couples may engage in physical combat when they are angry which may lead to injuries.

4. Divorce. Improper management of anger can lead to litigation, and the end resultant effect divorce.

Being angry is normal, understandable, necessary especially when you feel humiliated, abused, and disgraced. But the way, and manner you handle it may result to negative or positive result, death, injuries, emotional problems, divorce etc. Sometimes, some death and injuries can be avoided if couples express their anger in an acceptable manner.

Anger can't be prevented even in marriages, but managing it is the key for effective and successful marriage.