Marriage is an institution of matured people. It's expected that whosoever wants to get married is emotionally, financially, and psychological ready for the task ahead. But sometimes people get married out of compulsion, undue pressure from parents, relatives etc.
Marrying out of compulsion is when an individual[male/female] is coerced or compel
to marry someone against their wish or consent. It is common in most part of Africa. Sometimes, when parents especially women believed that their daughters has pass the age of getting a spouse in their own believe, and understanding, they will compel their daughters to get married to whosoever seek their hand in marriage.
CONSEQUENCES OF MARRYING OUT OF COMPULSION.
Some of the consequences of marrying someone out of compulsion are,
1. Divorce. When a woman marries someone out of compulsion in other to please his or her parents, then divorce is inevitable. Some of the divorce cases been witness today is as a result of forced marriages.
2. Lack of Love. Love is the only force that keeps couple together irrespective of the circumstances, challenges, and trials.
3. Infidelity. Infidelity cases in marriages can be traced to forced, and family induced marriages.
Prone to domestic violence. Domestic violence may likely occur in marriages contracted through force.
Just as we have marriages that are forced by parents, relatives, friends etc; we also have people that willfully got into marriages because of their age, mentality, and mockery from friends, and relatives.
Some people who got divorce from their spouse confessed that they got married because of their age and not because of the love they have for their partner. In Africa if a woman is not married; it's believed that she is irresponsible, bad mannered etc.
Sometimes, appointment is hardly given to someone that is qualified academically especially females because of been single. These are some of the contributing factors that made some females go into marriages without considering the negative effect, and consequences.
HOW TO AVOID UNDUE PRESSURE TO GET MARRIED.
Some of the factors of avoiding undue pressure to get married are;
Believe in Yourself. If you are matured to get married, and still single; just be yourself, believe that the right person will come at the right time.
Have a Standard. Have some basic standard you want your future spouse to have. It's better to remain single than to make the wrong choice and be somebody's ex. in future.
Don't be discourage.Discouragement is one of the key factors that can make women go into force marriages.
Trust and Believe in God for everything. When you put your trust in God, and refuse to be move by people's opinion about you, then definitely you will never be under undue pressure.
Don't be Desperate. Being desperate in everything is bad including marriage. Desperation have made people do a lot of unimaginable things in life including their choice of marriage partner.
Marriage should be contracted out of love, understanding, and mutual respect for each other. It's a lifelong commitment. Whosoever that is ready for it should be allowed to make his or her choice without inducement, compulsion, and desperation.
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